Most of us love a good sex scene when it comes to romance novels. You are there with your character; you want to feel what they are feeling. You later applaud the author for allowing you into his or her dirty mind… but what if the author was your son or daughter? Your grandchild?
I am no stranger to romance novels, I own over a dozen copies of historical romances in my bookshelf at home. I often question my favorite authors, however, wondering about their families who must obviously know which genre their offspring write for. Many romance authors even dedicate their books to a parent or grandparent.
A few of you reading this post maybe completely unconvinced. “Who cares if my parents are reading my sex scenes? It’s not like it’s my own sex scene.”
While this is true, I would still feel uncomfortable sharing these inner thoughts with the people who raised me. I started to think about my own parents, my very traditional mother and father, when reading 50 Shades of Grey. I know, it’s a bit cliché, but lets stick with a book most everyone knows. My father would not want to get anywhere near that series if I had written it, and quite frankly the feeling is mutual. Do I want my father, the man who is still on the fence about my dating life, to have any sort of glimpse at my sex life? Yeah sure, I’m not actually banging Christian Grey with handcuffs and whip, but do I want him to know I’d like to be?
I truly believe E.L James does not have this problem. She is at the point in her career where she doesn’t give a damn about who reads her sex scenes. This woman is currently making more money off of her dirty mind in three books than a tenured stripper would in a lifetime.
With that being said, I think there is no shame in writing a sex scene. I love reading them and I know many of you do as well. If my mother comes up to me in a few years when my first novel is published, asking to read copy, would I say no? Of course not! Would I feel one hundred percent comfortable? Maybe not, but I’d give her a fair warning.
To the readers whose parents are traditional, off the boat villagers like my own, you understand where I am coming from. However, I don’t have this view about my late grandmother, because when she passed we found piles of historical romance books all throughout the house. I suppose this is one of those traits that skip a generation, like color blindness or whatever.
Anyhow, you get the picture. In the end, It really depends on how close you are with your parents and whether or not you feel that this is something you can share with them. Would you let your parents read your sex scene? Share your side in the comments below!